Showing posts with label Adam. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Adam. Show all posts

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My "A" girls

I have my 2 girls...and a boy (al Fatihah to Adam).
Arianna- we call her Sofea.
Arissa- she's been called Sarah since 1st trimester.

We went for Greek names. As long as the name has good meaning to it- does not represent a bad meaning in languages we know, we are happy.

Alfatihah

(image from Google)
On this day 3 years ago, I found out my baby had passed. To a better place, to be with God. Instead of a boisterous 3 year old son, we are blessed with a boisterous 2 year old daughter. It's his birthday tomorrow.

Thank you God for a wonderful year, may we'd be blessed for the coming year. I welcome Muharram 1431 with renewed vigor.

on stillbirth... from March of Dimes website

What are the causes of stillbirth?
There are a number of known causes of stillbirth. Sometimes more than one of these causes may contribute to the baby’s death. Common causes include:

  • Birth defects: About 15 to 20 percent of stillborn babies have one or more birth defects (1). At least, 20 percent of these have chromosomal disorders, such as Down syndrome (1). Others have other birth defects resulting from genetic, environmental or unknown causes.
  • Placental problems: Placental problems cause about 25 percent of stillbirths (3). One of the most common placental problems is placental abruption. In this condition, the placenta peels away, partly to almost completely, from the uterine wall before delivery. It results in heavy bleeding that can threaten the life of mother and baby. Sometimes it can cause the fetus to die from lack of oxygen. Women who smoke cigarettes or use cocaine during pregnancy are at increased risk of placental abruption.
  • Poor fetal growth: Fetuses who are growing too slowly are at increased risk of stillbirth. About 40 percent of stillborn babies have poor growth (2). Women who smoke cigarettes or have high blood pressure are at increased risk of having a baby that grows too slowly. An ultrasound examination during pregnancy can show that the fetus is growing poorly, allowing health care providers to carefully monitor the pregnancy.
  • Infections: Infections involving the mother, fetus or placenta appear to cause about 10 to 25 percent of stillbirths (4, 5). Infections are an important cause of fetal deaths before 28 weeks of pregnancy (4). Some infections may cause no symptoms in the pregnant woman. These include genital and urinary tract infections and certain viruses, such as fifth disease (parvovirus infection). These infections may go undiagnosed until they cause serious complications, such as fetal death or preterm birth (before 37 completed weeks of pregnancy).
  • Chronic health conditions in the pregnant woman: About 10 percent of stillbirths are related to chronic health conditions in the mother, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, kidney disease and thrombophilias (blood clotting disorders) (5). These conditions may contribute to poor fetal growth or placental abruption.
  • Umbilical cord accidents: Accidents involving the umbilical cord may contribute to about 2 to 4 percent of stillbirths (3). These include a knot in the cord or abnormal placement of the cord into the placenta. These can deprive the fetus of oxygen.

Other causes of stillbirth include trauma (such as car accidents), postdate pregnancy (a pregnancy that lasts longer than 42 weeks), Rh disease (an incompatibility between the blood of mother and baby), and lack of oxygen (asphyxia) during a difficult delivery. These causes are uncommon.

Certain risk factors also are associated with stillbirth. Some of these include (1, 4, 5):

A recent study found that African-American women had a two-fold increased risk of stillbirth compared to white women (6). It is not known why African-American women are at higher risk. The risk for Hispanic women was similar to that of non-Hispanic white women (6)

on intrauterine death

Read Chinnee@MamaPatch entry... a sad outcome of a pregnancy (not hers!), and reminded me of my Adam.
I was pregnant with not much prob, except one day of bleeding in 1st trimester. I thought it was my menses coz I haven't checked the urine pregnancy test (I wasn't late anyway, thus I thought it was menses). No morning sickness, vomiting etc. Heck, we went to Langkawi during the first trimester, travelling to Kuala Kedah, taking the ferry and all.

Only had slight cramps into the 5th month, probably due to urinary tract infection. I was active as ever, only a small rounded belly to cause me to change my wardrobe (from pants into baju kurung haha). Went around for meetings, course, giving talks etc. One day I felt very,very little movement... I went to my gynae 5-6pm and his heartbeat wasn't there. I wasn't: -diabetic -hypertensive -having blood coagulation disorder

The above reasons were running in my mind when the news was broken to me. I did not ask, but stated that i didn't have any risk factor. Next I called DH, and asked where to deliver (my gynae went for Hajj, as I didn't want to go to a government hospital, I have way too many doctor friends in O&G). Went home, collected my thoughts, cried seeing his baby room (cot, clothes, toys and all), later broke the news to my in laws and my family.
Google on intrauterine death, you'd get many causes. But through my own experience of handling maternal child health clinic, presenting mortality cases, gestational diabetes/ known diabetic moms tops the list.

Hypertension and coagulopathy were culprits too, mostly by restricting blood flow to the placenta. In hypertension, the high blood pressure causes resistance in small blood vessels, and the placenta suffers. Even in well controlled hypertension, sometimes you can see placental changes.

In coagulopathy (anti phospholipid syndrome is common), you'd get small clots, and may block the small blood vessels to the placenta. They may have first trimester losses before finally being diagnosed, and upon diagnosis-be on blood thinners throughout the pregnancy. But in latter two, they'd get baby aspirin ie 75mg aspirin as a precaution to take daily.
*Mine was a mystery. Something happened inside and when he struggled, he got cord around his neck sadly.*

Aqiqah for my babies

This happened last Sunday, been busy (read: moody) to upload the pics. Guess there are plenty of food pics to be blogged. At the moment, she's really jumping ship...from a milk monster to a cookie monster. I miss my milk monster, but she cuddles with me plenty to make up for the absence of BF session.

We actually did 3 bahagian, 2 for Adam and 1 for Arianna. Many couldn't make it as it was the end of school hols perhaps. Performed by the same imam who came for Adam's funeral.

It wasn't sunat for arwah Adam, but we have 'niat' for it. And ustaz was consulted on the matter. We fulfilled the criteria for the aqiqah.


for my Adam, Arianna's big bro

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you feel the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
cause I know I dont belong here in heaven...

Would you hold my hand
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven?
Ill find my way through night and day
cause I know I just cant stay here in heaven...

Time can bring you down, time can bend your knees
Time can break your heart, have you begging please...begging please

Beyond the door theres peace Im sure
And I know therell be no more tears in heaven...

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you feel the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
cause I know I dont belong here in heaven...

Happy Birthdays

This entry is a tribute to my late baby Adam who was born December 20th 2006 at 8.49pm (29th Zulqaedah). May you play happily in heaven, my dear son. 2 years ago, I held you briefly in my arms and I will reunite with you in hereafter.
And of course my darling daughter is also a December baby.